This love thing…


All of us girls were brainwashed by the perfect charming prince, the white horse, that perfect love story where he says and does everything perfectly. He looks perfect and he looks at me perfectly. He knows how I feel even though he knows me only for a little while. He is loving and makes me feel loved, even though I have no idea if it all is truly love or not. And I in childhood, watched so many love stories, read so many romantic books, that now, I honestly regret doing so because I think the same way.

You may ask me: ” Why Maria?” . Because it is tiring to look at any guy and have my girly me bounce around and think that he might be the the guy. You know? It is quite annoying when I am just having a friendly chat with a guy and then again my girly me comes and starts whispering me that he is the guy when we have known each other for a little while only. And it is also, very, very annoying when I see my best friends who are sitting there on the chair yet their minds are flying around the world and thinking about some guy, whom I bet, they know only for little while and think they are in love. I mean come on people, if you think about it, will you really marry someone random thinking it’s love? I am pretty sure relationships are build on trust, care, honesty, and all and not on something capricious like love. Because love is not like Gravitational Force, it is not an exact amount, it will always vary. If you don’t believe me, let’s take the person you love the most, will you really love that person like you do them now when you are having an argument? My point is, I wish I wasn’t brainwashed about prince charmings and now I would probably have it easier and just know then when it is the actual love thing… You know?

Another reason why it is good for girls not to be brainwashed about love is that their husbands/boyfriends will be so happy they will kiss my hand! I am sure of that part, every guy, okay let’s say, majority of the guys believe that ladies are in their own illusional world, where they don’t want the truth, they always want the right answer the answer they they want to hear. They don’t want you to actually say: “No darling, you shouldn’t wear that dress”, they want you always to tell them they are perfect and let’s face it, nobody is perfect. This love story perfection has not only drawn women crazy nowadays (and me too) but it also makes guys who will date them suffer.

We ladies love heels to make us taller and sexier, love make up to make us prettier,we wear  fake eyelashes, and in the end we want true love. How can there be anything true around us when all we say,think, and do is practically an illusion? All I think is that parents should not let their girls indulge too much in love stories and fictional books. I am not saying that romance and fiction are bad, what I am saying is that when someone watches a movie and sees the perfect scenes, where the ugly girl turns out the most beautiful, the girl turns out having the richest and most handsome boyfriend, and the girl turns out to be loved dearly, obviously they will want that too! But will that really happen? Majority of the times when we have a rich boyfriend he turns out to be a jerk, if we have a caring and loving boyfriend he turns out to be really poor. That is how God made it fair,even though we might not see the fairness.

In conclusion, watching too many fictional movies is bad. Let your kid read some based-on-true-story books, let him face the real world. What is the point of living in a dream and then falling down crashing like a rock realizing the world out there is nothing like you thought it is, and obviously the men in it are also not perfect?


5 thoughts on “This love thing…

  1. I so much agree with you Maria, the truth is if we base all of our choices on that romantic books, movies stories, we are set to fail in out relationships because happily ever after is not necessarily included in it….. and the bs “once we’re together for life, the earth will move, fireworks will explode and we’ll make love every single night” it doesn’t quite work that way, The simple truth is that romantic feelings cannot last indefinitely in their original form or original intensity! And a good relationship needs much more than that, and we are not prepared for it! 🙂

    • Yup. I would always wonder why is it hard to sometimes not get into a fight with my siblings, and then I realized that a relationship with a guy will be exactly like family relationships. There will be arguments, but you will have to be patient, there will always be times when you love each other a lot, and you will have to cherish them and keep on going and having trust towards each other and of course there will be times when you misunderstand each other, it will be hard, yes, but in the end we should have the strength to be able to overcome the difficulties. Nothing is easy in life, but nothing is impossible either!

  2. It is true nobody is perfect and I do think too many people think that perfect person is out there. But when you have an argument with the one, you don’t not love them, you just don’t like them at that moment! The one is the one that you actually don’t mind putting up with their bad habits, the one is the person you still fancy even when they fart in front of you!!! The trick is not to look for the one because that is when you will find them!

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